I first met Alexina Graham eight years ago at Vogue Arabia’s first anniversary in Beirut. The opening night was held in Elie Saab’s private residence, and I was covering it on social media, filming, editing, posting, trying to capture the right kind of moment in a room full of them.
At some point, I asked her if she’d do a quick video for the feed. She didn’t hesitate. She was warm, easy to talk to and genuinely kind. We ended up chatting for longer than expected. The following evening, at the official celebration at Sursock Palace, I found myself drawn to her again. It was one of those surreal fashion nights, part celebration, part spectacle, and in the middle of it all, she stood out. Not just for her height or iconic copper locks, but for her energy. The kind that draws you in before you’ve even said hello.
Over the years, she’s walked for some of the world’s biggest fashion houses, Armani, Balmain and Jean Paul Gaultier, to name a few. She made history in 2017 as the first natural redhead to walk the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show, later earning her official Angel wings in 2019. She’s also graced the covers of Vogue Italia, Marie Claire, and Glamour and featured in global campaigns for the likes of L’Oréal. But what made her feel different, even then, was the way she let you in on the unfiltered moments.
She revealed the lighter, more human side of the fashion world. The one rarely seen on runways. Between shoots, she’d mime along to songs with her glam team, mess around backstage with fellow models, and lean into the fun of it all. One moment you’d see her dancing to Dolly Parton (yes, the actual Dolly) with Coco Rocha and the next, she was posting quiet reminders about choosing courage over perfection.
She was travelling, transforming, living out loud and quietly all at once. Even then, before any of the healing work became public, there was this sense that she carried something deeper. A kind of quiet knowing beneath the performance, even if she didn’t realise it herself.
That’s what’s stayed with me. Alexina has always let her light feel human, and over time, that light started to shift. A new version of her emerged: not disconnected from fashion, but expanded beyond it. Now 35, she still models, she always will, but she’s also a spiritual channeler and the founder of Heal Your Inner Child, a platform that helps others reconnect with the parts of themselves they may have abandoned or outgrown.
We spoke online, this time not at an afterparty, but across two very different paths that somehow led us back to each other. What followed was a conversation about healing, identity, visibility, and the kind of beauty that no longer needs to be performed.
Beauty in the Becoming
“For years, beauty was something projected onto me,” Alexina tells me. “What others saw, what I was hired to be. It was defined by the lens, by the industry, by how I was perceived. And at the time, it was incredible. I don’t take that for granted. But the inner journey changed how I see everything.” That shift began in 2021, when she hit what she describes as an emotional rock bottom. On the surface, her life looked full. Travel, campaigns, global visibility. “But inside,” she says, “I felt disconnected, heavy, and quietly exhausted.”
She pauses. “I was waiting for someone to rescue me. But no one did. I had to rescue myself.” It was the moment everything began to change. She stopped performing and started asking questions. “I realised I didn’t really know what I wanted,” she says. “I just knew I couldn’t keep doing things the way I had been.”
Channeling Clarity
What came next was less reinvention than release. She stepped back, from the pace, the performance, the version of herself she’d been keeping up with and gave herself space to simply sit with it. Therapy helped. Time alone helped more. “I began meditating a lot, and during that time I started receiving what I can only describe as messages,” she says. “They weren’t thoughts, they felt like something else.”
The more she listened, the clearer they became. “Eventually, I realised I was channelling and that it had probably been there all along. I just hadn’t been still enough to hear it.” Wanting clarity, she reached out to Peter Dennis, a Canadian expert who works with people claiming intuitive abilities, to test whether what she was experiencing was instinct or imagination. “I needed to know it was real,” she says. “That I could trust it and that others could too,” Dennis confirmed it. When he asked her higher self, as he refers to it, whether she’d ever share her gift publicly, the answer came quickly: yes, she will.
Becoming, Unbecoming
While her healing work may seem worlds apart from fashion, Alexina is quick to clarify that the two aren’t in conflict. In fact, one led her to the other. “Fashion gave me incredible experiences,” she says. “It taught me discipline, movement, how to hold myself in a room. But it also shaped me in ways I didn’t understand at the time.”
She entered the industry at 17. “For years, I just kept going, job to job, country to country, never stopping to ask who I really was underneath the image.” There was joy, of course, the backstage chaos, the creative energy, the rush of being part of something iconic. “But also this quiet fatigue. You’re constantly performing. Chosen. Assessed. It becomes easy to disconnect from yourself without even realising it.” She doesn’t place blame, but she does credit the industry with one essential thing: perspective. “It didn’t break me. But it showed me what happens when you forget to check in with yourself.”
What a Session Feels Like
Today, Alexina offers 1:1 sessions through Heal Your Inner Child, a practice that blends energetic guidance with emotional clarity. Her approach isn’t scripted or prescriptive. It’s intuitive, rooted in what she describes as “soul memory.” “I don’t ask for backstories,” she explains. “Just someone’s full name. I tune into their energy and ask that only what they’re ready for comes through.”
No two sessions are the same. Some bring up childhood wounds. Others uncover past-life patterns or emotional blocks that have shaped behaviours for years. Her role, she says, is simply to make what’s beneath the surface visible and gently guide the client toward it. “There’s often homework,” she says. “But it’s not spiritual fluff, it’s grounded. Journaling prompts, ways to shift your behaviour, rituals to rebuild trust with yourself. I just pass along what comes through.”
The Power of Reparenting
At the heart of Alexina’s work and her own transformation is a deep reconnection with the inner child. “I didn’t realise how much of my adult life was being shaped by that younger version of me,” she says. “The one who needed to be chosen, protected, accepted.” That realisation shifted everything. As she began to meet that younger self with compassion, clarity followed. “She helped me see where I was still performing strength instead of living it. Where I was loving from wounds instead of from wholeness.”
There was also a core belief she carried for most of her life: that love had to be earned. “If I were agreeable, low-maintenance, not too much, then I’d be safe,” she says. “It wasn’t conscious. It was survival.” Letting go of that belief wasn’t easy, but it was necessary. “I don’t shrink myself for safety anymore,” she says. “I don’t abandon myself to feel loved. That belief had to die for me to come back to life.”
What Grounds Her Now
Although her path has evolved, Alexina hasn’t left fashion behind, but she approaches it with a new kind of clarity. “I still love the creativity, the movement, the people, but I no longer lose myself in it,” she says.
These days, she channels daily, often more than once, especially on the harder days. “It’s like checking in with something wiser. It brings me back.” What grounds her now isn’t stillness for the sake of it. Its presence. “I can be in motion and still be rooted,” she says. “It’s about coming back to myself again and again.”
Living Beauty
When I ask what living beauty means to her, she pauses not because she doesn’t know, but because she wants to get it right. “It’s how you meet yourself when no one’s watching,” she says. “It’s how you move through your day. The way you light a candle. The way you speak to yourself. That’s beauty to me now.”
Even her rituals are less about performance and more about presence. “I play frequency music when I get ready. I meditate before I open my phone. These aren’t things I do to be ‘well’, I do them to stay connected.” And if her younger self could see her now? “She’d be proud,” Alexina says. “Not because everything’s perfect but because she’s no longer alone.”
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